The Advantages of Online Dating for Women

It's no secret. Online dating can be daunting – so daunting that many women find excuses not to join. If you're one of those excuse-makers, take note. Follow these five tips, and you'll be mastering the art of online dating.   

Tip Number 1: Be realistic. It's not going to happen overnight. You have to kiss a lot of amphibians before you meet your prince. You're going meet more people you don't like than people you do like. You're going to be rejected. There will be times that you want to give up. But if you're realistic, you won't be disappointed, and you'll keep going until you meet your Mr. Right.

Tip Number 2: Be positive. You don't have to try to convince yourself that every person you meet will be someone you want to see a second time, but you can still make sure that you come away from a first date with at least one positive thing to say about it, even if it's that the coffee was good.

Tip Number 3: Treat online dating like a second job. If you go about it half-heartedly, it won't work. You have to give it your all. If you go about it passively, it won't work. You cannot wait for others to contact you. You have to make the initial move. Now, I know this is often hard for women, especially older women, who think that men are supposed to make the first move. Wrong! If you don't take it seriously, it won't work. You can't say, “Well, these aren't great photos of me, but who cares?” The photos have to be the best photos you can possibly take. And notice, I said, “Photos.” Not “Photo.” You have to post more than one photo (three is a perfect number) AND they have to be recent AND at least one of them has to be a full-body photo. No matter what your body type. And you have to write a dynamite profile, which takes time.

Tip Number 5: Never give up. Here's my theory: Everyone has a number. It's like playing the slot machines at Foxwoods. Put enough money in, and you'll eventually win. That's how it is with online dating. Date enough, and you'll eventually meet the winner. Of course, you don't know what your number is or how many times it's going to take to hit the jackpot. So, you don't know how many of those frogs you're going to have to kiss.

I started online dating when I was in my late 50s, less than two weeks after my husband and I split up. I figured, “Life's too short.” I believed that the more men I met, the sooner I'd get to Mr. Right. Now, don't get me wrong. I'm not saying that I went out with ‘just anyone.' I only went out with men who seemed interesting to me, based on their profiles, and physically-appealing, based on their photographs. Isn't that the beauty of online dating? There are so many people to choose from. You just have to be the one to do the choosing. (See Tip Number 4.)

It took me three years to meet Peter – my Mr. Right. But it only took him four months to meet me. I dated over 100 men in my three-year-period. My number was 126 (more or less). Peter's number was 13. If I could do it, you can, too.